In spring a young man's fancy turns to thoughts of love. The wedding invitations haven't been as many in the last few years, but there are a few that trickle in. Soon it will be the grandkids that will be taking the plunge, but like their parents they don't seem to want to hurry things. However, this time of the year causes me to take time and reflect on the marriages that take place in the spring and through the summer. It's a romantic time of the year and myself, like all women, like to be involved.
When I reflect on marriage today - I always think - divorce rates are up. More couples are living together outside marriage. Young people postpone marriage much longer than they used to, but in spite of that, marriage is still in style. To me the institution will never be counted out. I find that I no longer feel I have the right to condemn the new morality, the new sexuality, the new feminism and the other freedoms. I have to admit I could never count these wonderful young people out just because I grew up in a different generation.
Our old values aren't the same, but young people are still declaring their trust in each other by making what they trust in each other a once-in-a-lifetime commitment to another human being. They are doing it for the same reasons people always get married, for love, companionship, security, economic advantages, because of religious beliefs, because they want children. But the old reasons have new meanings. The marriage vows - "love, honor and obey" have now been transformed into a better understanding of -"love, honor and share."
It use to mean a couple really took "a plunge" when they got married. For him it could be he was jumping into a financial net and for the women it could mean a life of togetherness where she was denied to be her own self, an individual.
I like the growing awareness of roles and rights in today's marriages; and being married for 59 years, I know a good marriage is something that grows and can't be caught in an instant. All I know there must be a good reason those wedding bells keep ringing.
This is a recipe that is refreshing for a bridal shower or luncheon.
Orange Sherbet Salad
1-11 oz. can mandarin
2 small pkgs of orange
1 pt. orange sherbet
Dissolve jello in two cups boiling water, add syrup of oranges and orange sherbet. When slightly set, add mandarin oranges. Spoon in glass pan or jello mold and chill thoroughly.
"The real act of marriage takes place in the heart."